THE MOSQUITOS AND ELEPHANTS OF LIFE AND Business RELATIONSHIPS

Are you more likely to be bitten by a mosquito or an elephant?


This is the exact question that I asked my students on Tuesday morning at 9:17 am.


They all agreed that they are more likely to be bitten by a mosquito than an elephant. True of us all!


Currently, we are in the lead up period to the November exams. The time is running out. The workload is intense. The pressure is on. And students’ sense of urgency is highly questionable.


I put the report screen on the projector for everyone to see. There were a lot of gaps. Most people had not done most of the homework and revision.


Exactly! You are more likely to be bitten by a mosquito than an elephant. It’s the little things in life that are more likely lead to failure, not the big things. It’s the small seemingly insignificant decisions you make that will affect your outcomes.

Time will pass. The exams are going to happen whether you want them to or not. The exams will happen whether you like it or not. The exams will happen whether you are ready for them or not. The only thing that will make a difference is your level of effort and the work that you put in right now because there are only 2 possible outcomes, either you will pass or your will fail.

The only thing that you can control is what you do right now to prepare for your exams.


This is equally as true for revision and exams, as it is for relationships in life and business.

Time will pass. The real difference maker for our relationships is going to be the small moment-to-moment decisions that we make. Each small seemingly insignificant decision will lead to a small deposit in Relationship Capital or a withdrawal. These small deposits or withdrawals, compounded over time, can result in extraordinary loss or extraordinary gain.


The goal is to play The Long Game, as per the title of Dorie Clark’s new book. It’s easy to ignore the mosquito bites in-the-moment, as they seem so insignificant. Lasting success in any area of life or business, including relationships, takes consistent effort. The work is never over. There is no finish line. If we want to have successful and blissful relationships, we need to continuously work on them.


If we are not conscious of the small mosquitoes biting our relationships, and if we don’t take the precautions to save our relationships from them, eventually there will be no relationships left to save.

The people in our personal and business lives may not leave us if we did 1 or 2 or 5 big things wrong. They will, however, definitely leave if we did 500 small things wrong overtime.


All relationships are based on human connection, and human connection requires 3 things: Care, Value and Service. These are the 3 things that will save our relationships from the biting of the mosquitoes.

If every moment we choose to show up from a place of Care, Value and Service, then we will be able to guard our relationships, make deposits to grow our Relationship Capital, and their compounding overtime will lead to extraordinary gain. The only thing that will make the real difference is our commitment to the effort and the work that we do right now.


What are you doing to protect your relationships from the biting of the mosquitoes?


How committed are you to playing The Long Game?


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